Loving without judgement
It is about all those who express their love and caring in amazing ways. It is about any loving people who embark on life without judgments and assessments of another.
With my husband, I have learned to access this compassion for others regularly. From the best friend I ever had, to the ones I have shared my most personal moments with now – we have learned to extend to each other the love that we are all capable of being.
While there are still many things I would like to express to those who have lost a loved one to suicide, the final words I want to leave with are simple: Happy loved ones, you have made a difference in the lives of many and may I wish you peace.
Expressing this idea to a suicide survivor has been most difficult. The roller coaster of emotions still continue to swing at me and come crashing down.
Reaching out to support the bereaved at this time of their life is one of the most difficult things one can do.
Cynthia, a rape survivor and survivor of sexual abuse, will never forget the touching exchange she shared as she met with a woman years later.
The intimate details of the devastation are recalled when they received a call from a woman who had been raped but not turned into a killer.
I want to let you know that we are not alone in this suffering or in this grief. In fact, reaching out and reaching in is one of the most powerful means of healing and growth.
When we reach out we make space for the person we loss to live, to talk and to release all their pain.
Their loved ones need this type of compassionate voice. When someone we believe is important to us dies away we need to send a strong, caring hand to them to let them know that this is someone else we need to connect with.
We need to push down the pain with the act of helping someone we know. It is our duty. By doing so, we will experience and be empowered by the life force of another.
It is obvious that the death of a loved one is one of the most difficult challenges we face. To cope with this we need the grace and compassion from others to endure with us.
There is no greater joy than helping someone who has passed away to experience and to adopt into their life meaning and purpose again.
It is a privilege to know that we are functioning and enjoying some of the emotions that are more than likely still archived deep inside of them. Time is seen as a powerful thing; young and old, alike. A few drinks may offer us relief, a few warm hugs may provide us support as we cry our eyes out and oh so tenderly we caress the fur of their fur.
We know that the eternal joy of life is available for us. Each of us has that life force. It is there… it is waiting to be attended to.
This is a day of great sadness, but we are not defined by this loss alone. We are all touched by the loss of a loved one.